Forget What You Know About Mindset & Manifesting. Here’s Why I’m Your New Favorite
Mindset Coach for Women
MINDSET + EROTIC POWER
Are you tired of feeling awful about your desires, or defeated about your goals & dreams?
I’m Kate O'Connor, and I help women achieve confidence, visibility & influence in their own lives – without toxic positivity, burnout or shame. If you want to know how to truly use "mindset" as a woman,
My Journey from Struggles to Success
ONCE UPON A TIME, I WAS JUST LIKE YOU.
I was single, lonely, depressed and anxious.
Chronically under-earning, barely surviving under a mountain of debt – and drowning in impostor syndrome, because of it.
But after integrating sensuality with my mindset practice, I finally gained access to my true Erotic Power.
Now, I teach women how to do exactly that... so they can create, attract and receive the life they desire.
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Think of me back in 2011, hauling a camera bag through wedding receptions, nervously dodging come-ons from drunk guests and wayward groomsmen. Yep, that was me. I was faking it HARD as a "girl boss" and hiding almost everything about myself in the process.
Fast-forward through almost 10 years of struggling with confidence & mental health, and boom — I discovered that the true power of being a woman is not in hiding to stay safe, but in connecting all the parts of who I am, including my sexuality. The consequences reverberated through my friendships, love life, finances and career!
Now, I teach mindset for women: I help my clients access the full potential of their mind – without the fear, shame and invisibility that so often stops women from getting real results.
I wasn’t always this comfortable taking up space. Oh no. In fact, one of my most valuable skills as an event photographer came from my lifelong expertise in invisibility. But look at me now — I live out loud, turned-on, opinionated, messy as fuck, owning my beauty, and thriving.I'm doing everything "good girls" should never do, and helping women like you learn to believe in yourself, shine your unique light – and most importantly, Get What You Want.
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Hi there! I’m Kate O'Connor, the heart behind Mindset Matriarchy, and Mother-Witch of this coven.
My journey into coaching started not with a bang, but more of a weep — a painful realization during yet another affirmation-writing session, that some of the most successful mindset-methods in history need to be different for women than for men.
What began as a small 1:1 practice and a 5-week course has blossomed into a growing movement of women, rising in radiance, and taking their lives and desires into their own hands. Here’s the story of how my passion became my purpose.
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It All Began When Things Fell Apart.
I’ve faced my share of hurdles. Living alone for the first time, and newly single at 30, my life descended into utter chaos. I had no idea at the time, but I had undiagnosed – and fully unchecked – ADHD. I didn't understand why normal adulting seemed impossible. I was totally isolated, and my life was a mess.But as I searched for answers, each new solution brought me layers of self-compassion, permission, and actual self-love. In a world where self-hatred is just a regular Tuesday for most women, I gained true superpowers – which I now use to help women move forward and thrive.
I am your walking permission slip for:
- Trusting your own timing – even when you've been told you're "late"
- Eradicating perfectionism – your mess doesn't cancel your success
- Honoring your creative cycle – starts, stops & winding roads are the path, and we keep going until it's done.
- Feeling good – pleasure & fun are the strategy, not the reward.
THE MINDSET MATRIARCHY DIFFERENCE
IS VAST
The Great Un-Learning
All leaders in every industry agree that your mindset will make or break you.
Unlike most mindset coaches, I help women un-learn patriarchal conditioning and tap into their Erotic Power. This means all your affirmations, vibration-raising, and inspired action can actually benefit you, instead of accidentally reinforcing the self-doubt, spiritual bypass, invisibility and burnout of the patriarchy.
Mindset & manifesting coaches will tell you to change your emotions when you're feeling bad.
Not me.
You see, the more you learn to allow and enjoy your emotions – even the hard ones – the more you will manifest abundance. Because emotions are a powerful part of our Erotic Power, and dancing through life's disappointments or devastations is literally how I get the results I have... Like a soul-connected life-partner, a healthy home-birthed baby at 43 years old, and a fulfilling career and financial success that allows me to go to sleep at night with a full heart and turned-on p*ssy.
Women with ADHD
Every offering in Mindset Matriarchy is created by and for women with ADHD. This means you're set up to actually follow through, so that you can finally realize your potential.
Coaching for women with ADHD, means designing curriculum that heals decades of shame around dabbling, false-starts, lateness, procrastination, overwhelm & perfectionism. It's about learning to feel the success you've earned. Because taking action, following through and seeing results is MORE EFFECTIVE at building your confidence than ANY other form of "personal growth".
Most coaches will tell you to make your homework into a "healthy habit".
I call bullsh*t.
The truth is – once the novelty has worn off – most habits don't stick for women with ADHD. What does work is fun & pleasure (dopamine), and outside structures – like deadlines and body-doubling (AKA other people). You were never meant to do this alone. Doing this work in sisterhood gets exponential results, because community is a tool that no other tool can replace.
The Mission
As a survivor of the Patriarchal culture, my mission at Mindset Matriarchy is deeply personal. It's about liberating women from the masking, shame and invisibility, and giving them power and influence in their own lives. You don't stay safe by hiding – power is the thing that keeps you safe.
I'm driven by my core values of social justice for the world's most vulnerable, and reverence for the Goddess that every woman is, by design. Each offering I create carries a story of permission, expansion & sisterhood, because the truth of healing is social – we amplify each other's light. We are in this together, and together we rise.
TESTIMONIALS + SOCIAL PROOF
Don’t just take my word for it.
My paradigm is totally changing and my mindset work has shifted my headspace and my reality...
I've never experienced the safety of [these practices] in the company of other women, and that felt so incredible. It felt mystical – like so much more became possible.
I really got the magic that I've been reading about, and trying to get into, with Mama Gena and the Academy [of Power]...
And it's so weird because – before this, I would use these same terms – but now that I've had the experience, they mean something even more deep. It really felt like power was returning to me.
Kate’s coaching has changed my life. She has helped me negotiate my salary, ask my landlord to lower my rent, deal with a bullying boss, and navigate romantic relationships.
If you’re struggling with not getting what you want, I’d highly suggest working with Kate.
As someone who has had major hangups about her body all her life, being seen naked was never high on my list of things to do – [but] I felt the urge to join – despite being nervous AF and my anxiety at an all-time high.
It was hands down the most exhilarating and liberating 20 minutes I have ever experienced. ...It stripped away years of body image issues...
[It] will live with me always as one of the most transformational embodiment practices I have ever experienced.
Some of the concrete things that have changed – that I absolutely attribute to my time working with Kate:
I moved in with my partner. We got engaged, we got married... I got an agent. I booked my first major animated series (I'm a main character)...
And I am building up and expanding my own business. I've hoovered in so much money. So much more money than I ever thought I could.
MY "Perfect & Elegant" TIMELINE:
Once upon a time, I was just like you. I walked on eggshells, lost myself in love, and thought my mess meant I was doomed to failure. But after connecting with my sensuality, and learning to understand ADHD, I discovered a source of confidence I never dreamed I'd possess. Now, I teach this to women and help them finally learn to SHINE.
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DROPPING THE CHARGES
2006: I chose me. After being stuck in legal system loop-holes for two years, I decided to drop the charges against the man who raped me.
The crown attorney (my lawyer, in Canadian terms) convinced me to accept a letter of apology instead of waiting for my day in court. 3 months later I received said letter: "I'm sorry you had consensual sex with me and regretted it." I chose to move on, and be well.
Until the Patriarchy is smashed, I will never refer to the legal system as the "justice system."
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MAY
2010
I graduated from York University with a Bachelor's of Political Science and International Development, and a Certificate in Nonprofit Business Management, from Schulich School of Business.
After graduating – in true ADHD form – I promptly went into business as a wedding photographer!
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DESCENT INTO CHAOS
2011: Newly single, I moved into my own apartment and lived alone for the first time in my life.
Working alone – for myself – my ADHD went completely unchecked. Life became pure chaos. Day was night. Looming & missed deadlines dominated my schedule, while friendships petered out. My fridge was either empty or full of rotting food. Depression & anxiety became the norm.
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JAN
2013
I separated from my business partner and finally let my work speak for itself. Despite the ADHD chaos getting ever worse, business actually began gaining traction!
Entrepreneurship was the personal growth & spirituality bootcamp I never knew I needed.
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FROM SELF-HATE TO NEUTRAL
2015: Staying with a friend, during a creative retreat in Palm Springs, she noticed and said the quiet thing out loud: "You're not doing well."
Under her recommendation, I attended the Hoffman Process – a week-long residential retreat that changed my relationship with myself completely. My depression was gone. The words on my outgoing feedback form said: "I used to hate myself and now I don't."
I began the self-love journey here, asking a friend "What are the actual instructions for loving oneself?" and writing a list on a napkin. A lifelong practice was birthed.
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LOVE IN ALL THE WRONG PLACES
2016: I fell in love for the first time since the 2010 breakup... and got my heart obliterated.
At 37, I suddenly realized that my dream of great love was over. Despite my "perfect" dating profile, I fell into yet another romantic dry-spell that would end up lasting for years.
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LEARNING THE SECRET
2017: Looking for greater meaning in life, I began a 2-year enrollment in Bob Proctor's "Thinking Into Results" mindset program.
My eyes were opened to the true power of mindset... for other people. While I saw women's results skyrocketing around me, I felt like my brokenness was confirmed.
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SEPT
2018
I began a Master's of Interdisciplinary Studies, in Psychology, Marketing and Communications, once again attending the top business school in Canada, on a full scholarship.
In true ADHD form (again), I dropped out after the first year, and became a life coach for brides!
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PUSSY: A RECLAMATION
2019: After reading Regena Thomashauer's groundbreaking book "Pussy" I put all my money on the line and spent the summer and fall studying in person – in the Mastery and Creation classrooms.
Everything changed. Permanently.
Studying sensuality and connecting with my turn-on, in a huge community of "Sister Goddesses" finally filled in the missing puzzle piece. Nothing would ever be the same.
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SUMMER
2019
Over the course of six months I went from "tragical to magical" as Regena would say.
I used my background in Mindset to navigate my blocks around the sensuality work – so I could go all-in and really LIVE the material.
I eradicated the barriers in my body and mind. I finally had access to my own power.
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THE BEINGNESS INTERVIEW
2020: The pandemic hit. With zero income (weddings were canceled!) and ALL the debt from my trainings & travels the years before, I got a job driving a delivery van to make ends meet.
Days, weeks and months, alone in the van – I started "interviewing" myself on an imaginary podcast, talking about my success. Something in my beliefs shifted. My terror around the debt lifted... I started seeing light at the end of the tunnel.
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INSTANT MANIFESTATION
Fall 2020: Reconnected with my turn-on once again, I wiped the dust off the top of my fridge and exclaimed in a sisterhood thread: "I am calling in a tall man!" He appeared 4 days later.
On our first date I hid nothing – my past and present struggles were out in the light, and it felt amazing. Within 2 weeks I had instant-manifested a new apartment for him, minutes from my place, and a life-changing romance was begun.
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Ever my biggest cheerleader, Joe convinced his closest female friends to hire me as their coach.
He always saw the Goddess in me.
With courage that created momentum, my private practice had officially been born.
SPRING
2021
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SUMMER
2021
I ran the first round of RISE under the name "Get Unstuck."
Everything I'd learned about mindset and everything I'd learned about pleasure... pouring out in five 3-hour sessions that left my very patient clients completely exhausted.
The learning process had begun: how to make a course people would actually digest and actually finish.
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THE ACADEMY OF POWER
2022-2023: After 3 years studying under Kasia Urbaniak, I made the leap to start facilitating practice labs in her signature programs, "Power with Money" and "Power with Men"
Holding space for larger classrooms, I felt in my body what expansion could look like.
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WINTER
2022
After a breakup and makeup with Joe, we used my "Power with Men" skills to co-create "The Apology Ceremony" – a blank slate and a fresh start, for us both.
In our newfound freedom we made a wild decision to start a family together, but my doctor said I was probably too old to do it naturally. ...He didn't know who he was dealing with.
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Pregnant on our first try, our excitement came to a halt when at 7 weeks I had a miscarriage.
Every skill I had learned, came into play:
I grieved and turned myself ON.
I honed my mindset and reminded myself daily – "Miscarriage is a normal phase in the process of creating a family. Nothing is wrong – my body is wise."
Before I even got my next period, I was pregnant again, and carried it to full term.
SPRING
2023
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PUSSY-BASED BUSINESS
Fall 2023: After business coaching with Julia Wells, since 2021, I was invited to guest-teach in her "P-School" program, on the fundamentals of Mindset.
I was 9 months pregnant.
The classes I taught were:
Mindset 101
How to deal with "negative emotions"
The Art of the Bullshit-Free Affirmation
My labor had begun and I taught through contractions during the last class... Guess it was time for mat leave!
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MOTHERHOOD:
THE ULTIMATE SISTERHOOD
2023: From homebirth through the newborn stage, to the toddler years we're in now, Motherhood continues to blow my mind.
The whole truth is that women, people with uteri, and all moms raising kids – are Gods. We have the God-like power to create and nurture life.
We are the leaders.
Everything makes sense to me now: the reason the patriarchy has to try SO hard to keep us out, and keep us apart...
But the Patriarchy is NOTHING compared to the Universe.
And I am more determined than ever, to create a world for my child that will be really fucking awesome.
MEET KATE O'CONNOR
MINDSET + EROTIC POWER COACH
FOR WOMEN
Everything I teach, I have created for myself.
From being chronically broke, lonely and depressed for almost a decade, to running a successful business, attracting adoration and support, and exuding unshakable confidence... I have healed, transformed, and alchemized my way to a life of love, abundance and constant surprising delights.
- I manifested two beautiful pregnancies at 42 years old, mindsetted my way through a miscarriage, and home-birthed my healthy thriving baby like a badass.
- As a survivor of rape, I am a fierce warrior against patriarchal bullshit, slut-shaming and invisibility wounds.
- As an ADHD Goddess, I have a deep understanding of the curses of an executive-functioning disorder... as well as the gifts and solutions that can help.
- As a spiritual, witchy hippie-at-heart, I will help initiate you into connection with your deepest/highest source...
- And as a recovering atheist & general all around NERD I can also back that sh*t up with some evidence-based science (if that turns you on).
I have helped my clients manifest and create loving relationships, new homes, better careers, healthier bodies, and hotter orgasms. My clients feel powerful and worthy of their dreams, and know how to call them in.
VISION, MISSION & VALUES
Here at Mindset Matriarchy, we're on a mission to liberate, unmask & empower women in all stages of life.
VISIBILITY
Every woman feels safe to shine her own light: loud or quiet, messy or impeccably composed, there is no wrong way to SHINE. Your mess doesn't disqualify you from success. You get to know and ask for what you want, and receive it.
EROTIC POWER
All women are witches. As you integrate your desires, emotions, sexual energy with pleasure, you gain the power to influence, create, attract & receive. Your radiance is the beacon for the life you've been dreaming of.
SISTERHOOD
Divide and conquer is the biggest scam of the patriarchy. Healing the sisterhood wounds = healing slut shame, body shame, comparisonitis, and "too much" shame that has policed women for millenia.
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Most mindset programs accidentally reinforce the patriarchal conditioning keeping you small.
"Mindset for Women" must involve your emotions, body, sexuality, values, and your imagination
– as well as your mind.
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